你是我的玫瑰花

娃娃 – 飄洋過海來看你

還是好朋友

可惜不是你

會呼吸的痛

（一）
人生的每一个时刻都有无数的可能。而这无数的可能当中，只有一个会发生。无数个发生了的可能带着我们走到我们的当下。
我们去黄山，好吗？我在想，有多少人有过这个提议，有多少人实现了那个旅程，有多少上了锁的心走到了海枯石烂、地久天长。
有很多人说，不为过去的种种而后悔，再来一次，还是同样的选择。可以重新来过，是怎样的一种奢侈。如果可以，如果能够，你会说，好的，我们去。
（二）
窗外的秋叶在午后的阳光里闪着光，我们坐在街的拐角的咖啡店，有一搭没一搭的说着话。一直没有想到，我们会一起来温哥华度假。你通常会攒着年假回国，而今年，你选择了温哥华。你说，他曾经邀你一起去黄山，那是好多年前的事情了。我说，他就在离温哥华不远的地方，要不要联系他。这是，我早在你说去温哥华的时候，就想问的话。你没有回答。顺着你的眼光，我看到满树的红叶延绵着，人行道上厚厚的落叶也延绵着，顺着那条望不到尽头的路。
不知道，沉默会有多长。我想，反正是度假，我就享受一下沉默的清闲吧。我知道，我的这个想法在这个时候颇有些突兀。可是，不然，我又能怎样？我也希望没有时过境迁，我也希望灿烂的秋叶不要落下。可是，该来的还是会来，就象秋叶落尽后的冬日。可是，冬日也有暖阳不是？那满树的银枝，不也是一种美好？
可是，我很快就发现，其实，沉默并没有多长。在你收回目光的时候，你开始翻开记忆了。
(三)
你平静的看着我，喝了一口手中咖啡，说， 他说，不管生死都要在一起。你的口气象是这与你毫无关系。我在想，我终于明白了一些，你一直一个人的缘由。可是，可是，你为什么会用这样的一种口气呢？不管怎样，我在想，你是幸福的。不管现在，你们是不是在一起，又或者，以后，你们会不会在一起。曾经，有人对你说过这样的一句话，就是一种幸福。
那个时候，他会在每一个夜晚说一声，晚安；每一个清晨说一声，早。我静静的听着，有一点点的伤感。是不是过去的幸福衬着你现在的孤单分外的刺眼。我想我是一个为了结婚而结婚的人。而你不是，可是，为什么你不能得到或者不能拥有曾经拥有的幸福呢？为什么曾经的”不管生死都要在一起”，那么轻易的就换了对象？
我想你是对的。还是不要联系的好。可是，就在这当口，你问：如果，我和他去了黄山，挂了同心锁，是不是现在就不会分开？我有些愣愣的。我不知道该如何开口。我不知道要帮你去回避，还是正视。我不是你，如果，有一个人对我说了那样的话，给了我那样的关护，我不会有一丝一毫的犹豫。当然是要去的，去挂同心锁的。可是，与我，没有那样的一个人。我不也一样结了婚，日复一日的过着人生的每一天？
我终于又没有忍住地问，你为什么没去呢？
( )
你撑着雨伞 借我那次
已经足够我 记得一辈子
我懂後来你 不是不坚持
爱情本来就 没万无一失
泪水离开了 你的手指
那不如让它 流在这信纸
我想女孩子 最贴心的是
让爱的人选 结束的方式
我最幸福的事 当过你的天使
趁鼻酸能掩饰 让我们像当时拥抱最後一次
最幸福的事 吹蜡烛时你总为我许愿的手势
为挚爱的人 在左边心口保留位置 是最幸福的事

有多少时候人们不想面对，不想承认.就象师父说的：一场战争，只要没有打起来，就不会有失败。

本来想给这个文件夹的名字是“随便说说”，可是，输入法里来了个“随波逐流”。突然间的触动，就用了它。

每每看到甜宝的签名档：爷打的不是牌，是寂寞！就觉得很心痛。也许，在这个世界上，人多是寂寞的。于是，就有了感情这么一种东西？ 又或者，是因为有感情，人们才会寂寞？

看到云七说“发现天上有那么多星星”，有一点去看星星的冲动。城市的夜晚没有星光。有的时候，能有一个地方，不是太远，但是，手机的信号覆盖不到。不被打扰的看看星星，听听虫鸣，也很好。只是，有的时候，人们总是有太多的放不下，放不开去做真正想做的事情。是不是，也有些许的“一场战争，只要没有打起来，就不会有失败。” 还没有开始，就已经放弃？

from msn.careerbuilder.com

10 fibs we all tell and how to stop
By Rachel Zupek, CareerBuilder.com writer

After you read the title of this article, your first thought may have been, “No, I shouldn’t lie at work.” Upon further reading, however, you’ll realize that everyone in the workplace lies.

Remember when you told your boss you liked his tie, which was obviously hideous? Or when you told your co-worker you were working late, when you really just didn’t want to ride the train with her? Both are lies.

Clearly, these minor fibs aren’t hurting anyone, but they aren’t helping, either. So why lie in the first place?

“While some people actually intend to be deceptive, many lies [are told with the] intention to do well or to avoid rocking the boat,” says Marsha Egan, president of The Egan Group, a professional coaching firm. “Others occur when people try to avoid the boss noticing a mistake in performance, or covering for some other behavior that could hurt their career. Many workers have the mistaken impression that a small white lie can’t hurt.”

They’re wrong.

Timothy Keiningham and Lerzan Aksoy, co-authors of “Why Loyalty Matters,” say that although it’s tempting to lie, even just a little, you run the risk of losing people’s trust, or even your job.

“It’s easy to say, ‘Everyone else is doing it, so I’ll do it, too.’ It’s much harder to take an ethical stand and insist on honesty. Lying, however, is almost never in anyone’s interest and should be avoided,” Keiningham and Aksoy say.

To lie or not to lie

The occasional white lie is usually harmless, but most experts say it’s easier to be honest from the get-go.

B.J. Gallagher, a workplace consultant and author of “It’s Never Too Late to Be What You Might Have Been,” says almost everyone lies at work at one time or another, usually in situations where they fear consequences for telling the truth.

“Is this lying OK? It depends on the context. In general, honesty is the best policy. If you tell the truth you don’t have to worry about being caught in a lie, you won’t have to tell more lies to cover up the first one and you won’t have to carry the burden of deception,” Gallagher says.

10 common fibs

Here are 10 little white lies that we often tell in the workplace, why we tell them and what we should say instead.

Lie No.1: I’d be happy to
Truth: This is the last thing I want to do.
Say this instead: “Tell your boss that you would be happy to help him/her with the task, but you need to find out more about what the task entails. At this point, share your concern,” Keiningham and Aksoy say. If you need more time, ask for an extended deadline; if you need resources, figure out what you need and be prepared to ask for them.

Lie No. 2: My alarm didn’t go off
Truth: I was out late last night and didn’t actually hear my alarm go off.
Say this instead: “Lies about tardiness only work once or twice. If you repeatedly use the alarm clock excuse, or the traffic excuse, then your boss and others will catch on and you’ll lose credibility — or worse,” Gallagher says. “If you are generally a punctual person and happen be late once in awhile, it’s best to fess up, apologize and promise not to do it again. ‘I’m so sorry. I didn’t allow enough time to get here this morning. I apologize. I’ll make sure I allow plenty of time from here on out.’”

Lie No.3: I don’t have any questions
Truth: I totally don’t understand what I’m doing, but don’t want to look stupid.
Say this instead: “When you are totally confused about something, saying that you have no questions will not gain you points with the boss,” Egan says. “Most times, the boss can see right through this. Be honest and admit that you may be confused, and that you will get your questions together, or spend some time reading the material so that you can answer your own questions.”

Lie No.4: Everything is under control
Truth: Everything is not under control.
Say this instead: “An alternative to this might be: ‘We seem to have hit a rough patch — can I get your advice?’” Gallagher suggests. “If you can enlist your boss’s help in solving whatever problem you’re having, you can actually strengthen your relationship with him or her. Sometimes, admitting weakness and asking for help is actually a sign of maturity and strength.”

Lie No.5: I just got your voice mail
Truth: I got your voice mail a week ago; I’ve just been avoiding getting back to you.
Say this instead: “Many voice mail and e-mail systems have the capability of disclosing when items are heard or viewed; therefore, this behavior is risky,” Egan warns. It is much better to not say when you received it, but just, “I am responding to your voice mail,” or “I received your voice mail Friday and am just now able to respond to it,” she says.

Lie No.6: Let’s get together soon!
Truth: I have no intention of getting together with you … ever.
Say this instead: “Why people say [this] to someone they never really intend to meet or who they don’t like is beyond me. Not only do they set off false hope, but by not meeting with the person, they have not delivered on a promise,” Egan says. “Say, ‘I’m glad we had a chance to meet,’ or ‘Thanks for your views on this subject.’”

Lie No.7: I was thinking the exact same thing
Truth: I was thinking something totally different, but I want to seem agreeable.
Say this instead: “What makes breakthroughs and change happen is creativity in thinking and helping others see a viable different perspective,” Keiningham and Aksoy say. “If you have a valid reason for disagreeing, then collect the evidence and make your point heard. Sure this is a risk, but as the saying goes, nothing ventured, nothing gained.”

Lie No.8: Oh yeah, I’ve done that before
Truth: I have no idea what this project is, or how to do it.
Say this instead: “Can you honestly learn the skills to complete the task in time for the deadline? If so, then go ahead and acquire the skills or ask someone for help to get the job done,” Keiningham and Aksoy say. “If there is no way to learn everything you need in a reasonable time frame, then you need to be honest and either ask for an extension or transfer the task onto someone else.”

Lie No.9: I’m sick
Truth: I need a day off.
Say this instead: “There are two primary reasons that employees abuse sick time and lie to avoid work: They have a lousy relationship with their immediate boss, or their work is repetitive, boring, unchallenging and mind-numbing,” Gallagher says. “If employees are calling in sick when they’re well, the boss needs to take responsibility and do something to address the real reason that employees are lying.” If you want a day off, request one.

Lie No.10: This will only take a minute
Truth: This will take forever.
Say this instead: “While it may be wishful thinking on the boss’s or co-worker’s part, discussions rarely take only a minute. Make a truthful assessment of about how much time you think the discussion will take,” Egan says. “It is better to say, ‘I’d like to discuss ABC — I think it should take only about 10 to 15 minutes; can we set a time to discuss this?’”

Rachel Zupek is a writer and blogger for CareerBuilder.com and its job blog, The Work Buzz. She researches and writes about job search strategy, career management, hiring trends and workplace issues. Follow her on Twitter: http://twitter.com/CBwriterRZ.

今天收到了暖暖发来的邀请
信封上很贴心的画一个狠可爱的娃娃眯着右眼。。。
好感动～
一时之间特别的想念
特别的想念

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晚上9点多的时候离开办公室
一如往常的
请楼里的保安帅哥送我去我的车边
帅哥说：嗨，你今儿个走得真早啊,真不错。
才意识到
以往都是在帅哥差不多换班的时候才离开的
想想觉得有点冰凉
可能是秋天到了

Eventually…

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Fighting with my insurance company for more than one week…
Nobody won

I am tired of that…

Anyway…

Better move on

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嗨！
听这首歌的时候愣是没有听明白歌词
我分特～～～

Shot like an arrow going through my heart
That’s the pain I feel
I feel whenever we’re apart
Not to say that I’m in love with you
But who’s to say that I’m not
I just know that it feels wrong,
When I’m away too long
It makes my body hot
So let me tell ya baby

I’ll tell your mama
I’ll tell your friends
I’ll tell anyone whose heart can comprehend
Send it in a letter baby
Tell you on the phone
I’m not the kinda girl
Who likes to be alone
I miss ya much (boy-oh-I miss you much)
I really miss you much (M-I-S-S you much)
I miss ya much (boy-oh-I miss you much)
Baby I really miss you much (M-I-S-S you much)

I’m rushing home
Just as soon as I can
I’m rushing home to see
Your smiling face
And feel your warm embrace
It makes f-feel so g-g-g good
So I’ll tell you baby

I’ll tell your mama
I’ll tell your friends
I’ll tell anyone whose heart can comprehend
Send it in a letter baby
Tell you on the phone
I’m not the kinda girl
Who likes to be alone
I miss ya much (boy-oh-I miss you much)
I really miss you much (M-I-S-S you much)
I miss ya much (boy-oh-I miss you much)
Baby I really miss you much (M-I-S-S you much)

I miss you much
I really really miss you much
I miss you much
I’m not ashamed to tell the world
I miss you

I’ll tell your mama
I’ll tell your friends
I’ll tell anyone whose heart can comprehend
Send it in a letter baby
Tell you on the phone
I’m not the kinda girl
Who likes to be alone
I miss ya much (boy-oh-I miss you much)
I really miss you much (M-I-S-S you much)
I miss ya much (boy-oh-I miss you much)
Baby I really miss you much (M-I-S-S you much)